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While multiple factors play a role in falling divorce rates, the costs of separation make going it alone a daunting prospect for many Canadians.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yup. I have it relatively easy. Our relationship is cordial on the surface. We have a house in Toronto that will be paid off this year. We're financially doing well. And we have a wonderful boy we're raising together.

I'm miserable though. She has a short temper. Our interactions are filled with micro aggressions. We haven't so much as kissed in years. I would love nothing more than to leave and just live in peace for a while.

I can't. Homes go for over 2 mil in my neighborhood, rents are about 4k for a 2 bedroom. Unless I want to abandon my son and move far away. I simply cannot afford to live where we live right now.

Instead I'm in therapy trying to develop strategies to cope.

Before anybody chimes in: I do all of the house work, groceries, cooking, cleaning and laundry. The only thing I don't do is fold her laundry as she doesn't like the way I do it, which she complains to me about. I also pay the majority of the bills and child care and then again, I get flak for not saving enough money compared to her.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Why did you dive in so deep with this person?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

This question implies that she was always like this. She wasn't. In retrospect, I should have noticed the signs after we got married. But I didn't didn't until after we had our kid.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

The answer is no doubt long, complicated, and not nearly as easy to avoid as you are imagining. Let’s not compound his problems.