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After two users admitted to doxxing me, and another admitted to digging through all of my past posts and comments, I decided to deleted my past posts. One user put my name, and my husband’s name into a comment box on one of my posts, and then tried to claim he hadn’t doxxed me for that information.

Another user decided to stalk my page, and then followed me to a post about my cat, where he proceeded to tell me I needed mental help for all of my other posts and comments. I called him out for stalking my page and digging through all of my past posts and comments in order to tell me that. I think stalkers need mental help, and a Lemmy user named Steak is totally a stalker. So to prevent people like that from digging through all of my past comments and posts, I have decided to delete many of them. Stalking is a mental illness, and many Lemmy readers don’t want to admit that. I hope readers like him seek mental help. There isn’t something wrong with searching for a missing spouse. There is something wrong with stalking and doxing a woman you’ve never met.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Information posted publicly on a public site is... public, anyone can see and use it.

Always keep that in mind

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I didn’t post my name and my husband’s name. I also didn’t post our court documents. Some Lemmy reader did some internet digging and doxxing to find our names and personal information, and proceeded to publish it in goodoffmychest. He broke the rules. It wasn’t something I had posted on this site. I think you misunderstood my post.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (2 children)

You want me to be honest with you? Screenshot all this information, everything you have and take the dam. Lemmy instance owner to court. I mean, fuck them, dude. That's so shitty. It's their responsibility to make sure that they mitigate and take down doxing. Type of information and if they can't do that, they shouldn't be operating a fucking website. I'm sorry you're going through this

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

Take them to court for what exactly?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I did screenshot the person’s comments, or what I could see of them, after deleting my posts. The person clearly posted my first and last name in the link, along with my husband’s name.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Jesus Christ. I'm messaging you now. I'll help you with this

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Hey so you obviously have some issues to sort through, so I’m going to respond this once to clear the record, then go back to be blissfully unaware of your existence. You literally did post your name, you shared a PayPal fundraiser begging for money, and that had your name and location in it. Like literally, saying you didn’t post your name is completely wrong.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Are you fucking insane ?

BACK THE FUCK OFF.

It doesn't matter whether she did or did not do that the fact that you are fucking so goddamn persistent over here trying to make some case like you didn't do a damn thing wrong. Is fucking absolute psychotic out of your mind bullshit. You're spreading her fucking information and you're actively doing it on purpose. The fact that you went out of your way and you keep going out of your way to post her shit online is proof of that

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (3 children)

You stalked my profile to find that PayPal link, which didn’t have my name displayed, unless you followed my link. I wasn’t begging for money, I simply stated that my cat had major medical bills and that if people wanted to help, it would be appreciated. Last money was financially tough with non-typical expenses, but veterinary bills made it more difficult. You didn’t just see my name on a PayPal link. You used my name to research personal information about me and my family.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Your name is displayed on your PayPal link, which is linked from post you made (post not a comment). https://lemmy.world/post/14540822

You are sharing all your personal information on Lemmy. Photos, names, locations, tests, court cases, etc.

Photos are dangerous because they can include geographic tagging. They can be reverse image searched to find the photo on other platforms. The faces in the photos can be searched to find their names and social media profiles.

Documents, court, tests, are dangerous because they have identifiers that can be looked up to identify you.

Fundraising will almost always identify you, because money gets tied to your identity at some point, it just needs someone persistent to follow the money, but giving out your personal PayPal link makes this trivial.

Talking about locations, and specific events, gives away your location and timing of being in that location.

Talking about court cases and any uniqueness of court cases, makes it easy to search for you on court database systems.

Anything you post on the internet, is there forever, including Lemmy. Especially lemmy. By its distributed and federated nature, even if you delete a post it has gone out to all of the instances, and the deletion is just a database table entry. 1,000 Lemmy instances have copies of all of your posts. Don't put anything on the internet, but especially Lemmy, that you don't want to be made public.

Your nature of debate, and your conception of reality, are really interesting to people. And they are incentivized to look up your information, to prove you wrong. When you talk about court cases, when you talk about timelines on filing, when you talk about missing persons, these are the things people on the internet like to look up and satisfy themselves. You create many situations where people go oh that can't be right, and they naturally want to look it up and see if they were right or you're crazy. Sometimes they want to share their findings.

As an example, you said your divorce proceedings were dismissed because the respondent didn't show up to court. That's not something United States courts do. So curious person, would use the information you've posted, and look up your court case, and see if it was actually dismissed like you said it was, or if there was some confusion in the court decision and your perception. I bring this up, because a lot of your posts are about your personal history, and then you want to debate people about what happened, citing that you're lived experience differs from what people expect. That's genuinely going to make people want to look it up. It's baiting people to research you. Intentional or not. Most people here, the vast majority, don't have an interest in you as a person. But they do have an interest in being right. So in many of your conversations, a debate happens, and you're telling people they're wrong, and they really really want to be right. So that's when the research happens

I provide this data with no malice, I am just trying to make you aware of the data you're leaking, you're posting habits and encouraging people to look things up about you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

You don't need or owe this person an explanation. They are a stranger and mentally unwell.

I personally wouldn't engage anymore. Wishing u the best.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your help!

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

They have been permanently banned from our instance.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Really? I didn’t even know. Thank you for being concerned and notifying the mods.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Of course. Banned from my instance (hilariouschaos.com) I am not sure if it federates to other instances though. So check in with ur home instance (you're on lemmy.world right?) And report them there. @Ruud is one of the main admins there I believe, and he seems genuine in his efforts in this situation. His comment is top in this thread

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I am not going to condone any doxxing behavior, but you definitely made it very easy for these people giving them information that, if they didn't have, would have probably made it impossible to figure out. So while their behavior isn't right, I think like others mention in this thread, you have to be very careful with the information you divulge online. Be careful out there.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I didn’t give the person my name to dox.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

I didn't say you did. I said you gave them enough information. Like how unique your names are, etc. I was trying to be subtle and not point out those things.