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So, I understand that some people can have the same name, but this isn’t the case with my husband. My husband’s name is so unusually spelled that he was the only person, besides his biological father, who had that first and last name combination on a birth certificate. This is a fact that he shared with me when we first started dating. He seemed pretty proud of that, and I always thought it was funny. After I married him, and changed my last name to his, I became the only woman in America that had my first and last name on record. It’s just that odd of a last name, so please trust me on this one when I say that someone is using his name.

The profile on instagram, that I just discovered, displays a profile picture of an older man, standing, or sitting, beside a woman of about the same age. I wanted to report it to instagram, but there wasn’t an option to report the possibility of a spouse’s stolen identity. It is definitely not my husband’s account. The friends listed in the pages he follows, are not any names that I recognize from his group of friends. He would never lose contact with some of his closest friends.

I am worried.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

If any of the stuff you've been posting recently is even remotely true: You need help beyond what random people on an internet forum can help you with. Seriously.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

If anyone has seen him, or sees this post and shows him the wedding photo in my post history, perhaps I can find him. No one else really cares. I have explained this to family, and they don’t care because he physically abused me when we lived together. I realize that, and I don’t want him in my personal life, again. I don’t agree with letting people suffer, though, if he’s homeless somewhere, and can’t reach out for help. Since he’s so popular, I doubt he is. I guess I should just assume his friends are taking care of him, if he is, and that he doesn’t want to communicate with me. I’ll just stay out of it.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

https://www.truepeoplesearch.com/find/guenthner/jeffrey

Just to ease your mind, a cursory internet search shows multiple people with your husbands name exact name living in the USA

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (2 children)

That isn’t the name that was on their birth certificate, though, if they are older than him. There are several social media accounts with older men t thing to use his name (men in their 50’s and 60’s). In 2010, my husband told me that he was the only one in America with that name because of how his last name is spelled. I understand that people can change their name through the courts, but I think other men are simply using his identity and have perhaps used it to establish residence, which gives them a public record for living in a given city with that name. In fewer words: I suspect those men of fraud.

Also, I never said my husband’s name, which I can clearly see displayed in the link that you provided. Did you dox me?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

https://unicourt.com/case/ca-fre-sarah-guenthner-vs-jeffrey-guenthner-256902

Also it says in this divorce judgment that it was dismissed because neither you nor your husband showed up for the proceeding……

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

I did show up. They marked me absent and were supposed to change it. I was sitting in the back of the court room and they didn’t see me raise my hand when they called my name. I told the bailiff and he said I would have to have the court change it later, and then reappear. I went down the hallways to that room that has all of the clerks in it, where I could complain. They told me I would have to appeal it, or just start the process all over again. He didn’t appear at all.

Also, you really aren’t allowed to dox people. You’re breaking the rules of Lemmy on this site.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Not at all, in one of your previous posts you provided a link to a PayPal fundraiser, of which the person who organized it was listed. I just put that name into the website in the url I posted, in the state of California, (from your post history), and it gave my link as a possible spouse. Idk you or your husbands history, I just was replying to hopefully give you some peace of mind that maybe your husband bragging about having a unique name wasn’t true.