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'I felt like a freak because I didn't want children' (www.bbc.co.uk)

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

This happened to me in the USA. I told the doctor I want to be sterilized and neither my husband nor I wanted kids.

He told me it would be unethical. My husband might die and then my new husband would want children. I told him I would not change my mind, and such a man would be incompatible for marriage with me. He told me I’d change my mind. So basically, yes some hypothetical future man would want to use me for a baby factory, that’s why I can’t be sterilized.

I was 30. I’m older now, still don’t want them. I’m too ashamed to ask again for sterilization. My husband has a vasectomy scheduled soon (weird how a doctor had no problem doing that for him. Wonder what the difference is????)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Get that OB/GYN's statement in writing and then report him.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

I think the doctor thinks of your husband as a baby factory manager and as he wants the baby factory out of operation it is his choice. Now if he died a new manager could start up the factory again. I know this is extremely fucked up and there is no reason you should not be able to get sterilised but it is a fucked up world we live in.