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Space rule (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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ID: An outline of a fat person with long flowing wild hair, they're in a graceful pose that looks like they might be dancing, with their arms spread out and one leg in front of the other. The outline is filled with a starry galaxy like pattern, made to look like it's glowing on the blue-purple background. On the torso are the words "take up space"

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I didn't know that was optional.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 days ago (2 children)

spreads legs slightly on the bus to be comfortable, as i posses testicles

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago

TMNT meme – cowabunga it is

[+] [email protected] -24 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Those likely give you the privilege of dominating most spaces already, so no need, you're good.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

first off, i don't have to justify shit to you, this comment is partly to let me vent and partly to show other people that they're not evil for being born with traits that class them as "privileged.

I can assure you i don't have the slightest privilege of dominating spaces, as i've been living with undiagnosed autism and probably also ADHD, and have spent most of my life (and still do) in front of my computer with no real life friends and only going outside when i can force myself to go on a walk or ride the bike, or when i go to the grocery store.

I have also always been told that i'm a straight cis man, and believed so until recently because i well obviously if everyone says it that's how it is.
Guess what? i'm actually quite into dicks, after having spent like a year gradually easing myself into the idea that i'm fucking ALLOWED to not be straight i now realize that i'd quite like to suck a dick at some point even! And while i think i prefer to present as a man, i've also realized i wouldn't much mind if i woke up as a woman some day, and that frankly i'd rather we all never mention the concept of gender again.

To anyone reading this: It's okay to be privileged, it does not make you evil, it should not force you into being what people expect of you, but you also shouldn't force yourself to try to be something else just because you don't want to be considered privileged.
The only privilege that matters is wealth and power, and luckily that is easily rectified by sharing your wealth with those who lack it and using your power to help the marginalized of society.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)

pls dont assume peoples privilodges based on their genitals

i think its fine if we all take up the space required to exist in relative comfort.

[+] [email protected] -21 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I specifically used the word "likely" to indicate it isn't the case 100% of the time, but lets be honest, the only people not only manspreading, but coming on to a post like this, in a community like this, to make a smug point about manspreading, are cis men. That is what I based my assumptions on.

Having to be respectful of and just as uncomfortable as everyone else around you on public transport is, is not a form of oppression from which cis men need to reclaim space in the world.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm supportive of your general vibe. But respectfully, being inclusive of your own needs does not require being exclusive of the needs of others. We all share the same world, so maybe we can be understanding of everyone's desire for comfort without judging them based on how they were born.

[+] [email protected] -9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Not when those "needs" come from nothing but an overinflated sense of entitlement and at the expense of less privileged people in that space, no.

E: like seriously, people defending manspreading as if it's some brave reclamation of space cis men have been deprived of?? This is absurd.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

you are right, there is not much reclamatory or rebellious on a societal level about cis men (in their role as such) taking up the space they need and even less so, when they take up more space than they need.

i think it is still positive when people - including cis men - overcome their insecurities and take care of themselves. but i understand if that is not what you meant with your post.

i would give the commenter the benefit of the doubt tho and assume that they are not a troll as well as even restrain from assuming their gender and therefore the reclamatory value of their action.

personally, i still struggle with internalizing that i can sit comfortably on public transport without that invalidating my feminitiy or making me a toxically masculine man

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've been a man for most of my life. It hurts my feelings when people say "cis men don't deserve this or that privilege" cause I've been there. Everyone deserves the privilege of living in comfort, even the stinky, evil cis men.

Uh, that is to say I agree with you.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

this is pretty much what i intended with my comment.
I spent most of my life with undiagnosed autism which i've now realized resulted in me experiencing quite a bit of trauma i never even realized was out of the norm, and i'm so utterly fucking sick of people latching on to features that are associated with privilege as if that somehow guarantees the person cannot have experienced bad things.

I've also as of late started realizing i'm not quite as straight as i thought i was, and how delayed that realization has been due to people assuming i'm straight and therefore a bit of an other in many leftist communities.

No, fuck this self-segregation, we're all people and the only grouping that matters is that between the proletariat and the bourgeois.

This is where i run out of brainpower a bit, but i'm gonna finish the comment and hope this makes some sense:
I think the idea of being privileged for a trait you didn't choose is itself reinforcing privilege, it makes people who are viewed as privileged think that's what they are and thus they can't have "unprivileged" traits, if everyone calls you a straight cis white man then you're not going to feel like you're allowed to explore yourself and realize that you're not really that straight, or you'd actually prefer to be a woman or not have a gender at all.

If we want an inclusive and just world, we have to remove barriers between people, we have to make everyone feel part of the same group so that we can work together instead of working against each other.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Fucking inspiring honestly. Fuck yeah, take up space. Exist. Fucken be here.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago

Exactly right, glad you find it inspiring!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

occupy space when?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

There is space all around you, occupy some today!