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A year ago, Franky Dean, a 24-year-old documentary film-making master’s student, decided to make a phone call she’d been avoiding nearly half her life. She was sitting in a dark computer room in New York University’s journalism institute in Manhattan when she FaceTimed her parents. They were in the living room at her home in the UK, where she grew up. Franky told them she’d just filed a police report about something that had happened more than a decade earlier. When Franky was 12, she had been sexually abused by a close friend’s dad.

And then her mum said two words that would change her life, again, for ever: “We know.”

It was meant to be a climactic moment – a revelation that Franky had been building up to for years. Instead, it was the beginning of another story – the unravelling of a shadow narrative that spanned half of Franky’s life. It’s a story about what happens when police assume survivors of sexual abuse to be “unknowing victims” – a series of misinterpretations and missteps that amounted to Franky spending 12 years hiding her abuse from her parents while they spent 12 years hiding it from her.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 week ago (8 children)

I hope we as a society will start teaching new parents that they shouldn't rely on child development advice from a single person, especially one with limited knowledge and experience in that area. Raising humans is complicated, and as with many things, the pitfalls are often invisible unless you've run into them before.

I assume the detective constable meant well when offering guidance, but it's important to consider the source when evaluating guidance, and be a little skeptical when it comes from someone whose qualifications and incentives don't directly apply.

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[–] [email protected] 87 points 1 week ago (4 children)

PSA

If you have been sexually assaulted or abused by someone, please tell somebody. Preferably the police, but if not them then tell someone else that you trust. I know this is a huge ask. I know you want to completely erase it from your memory. I know that doing this means unleashing a shit storm that you can never undo. I know it's going to dredge up all kinds of pain. I know it might permanently reshape your life. I know it's going to be incredibly hard. It's probably going to take courage that you're not even sure you have.

The reason I'm asking you to do this is because there's a really good chance that the person who did this to you has done it before or will do it again. YOU may be the only thing standing between the perpetrator and their next victim. The fact that it happened to you is terrible and I'm so sorry for that. But you have the power to help make sure what happened to you doesn't happen to anyone else. So please tell someone because you might very well be the hero, that you needed, for someone else. There are few things in life more honorable than that.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's a pretty disturbing story, and I never would have imagined they would not tell a victim. I understand the argument against it, but the risk of long term mental illness / PTSD from it being suppressed just seems way too high.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 1 week ago (33 children)

I don't understand the argument against it.

It's their body. They don't just have a right to know. They need to know.

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